Dating again after 50
OK, Ladies, you want the honest, real, unvarnished truth about what a commitment minded, nice, cute, professional, divorced 54-year-old man really wants from you? As a guy she’s been a tremendous help in terms of understanding and relating to women in the 50 age group.
You also know that understanding men is a key to finally writing your own grownup love story. LM really says it best, so here is what he has to say after reading about the various types of 40 single women, called my Please thank Bobbi on my behalf.
They’ll text me non-stop for an entire weekend, totally disappear, and then email me ten days later.“Rules Girl” tactics are common: don’t return phone calls or texts for 48 hours, don’t pick up the phone for scheduled phone dates, etc. The disappearing, the game-playing, the crazy expectations, the mixed messages? It protected me from ever giving any man of quality a chance to see me or touch my soul. He told us that he loves women, “if only they weren’t so complicated.” And he graciously gave me permission to publish his email because he wants to help women understand more about how men feel, what they want and don’t want.
(This is another “Bobbi’s right”, fifty-year-old guys hate that type of stuff.) A woman who will initiate a few ‘how’s your day going? His frustration and his feelings of helplessness and inadequacy? When I knocked down that wall, and learned some new things, my heart opened and my love came into my life. He wants to help us all make better human connections!
She’s a much better writer than we have on the guy’s side of things!
Bobbi brings up things I would never have thought of.
Approach that work colleague you always thought was kinda cute? And once you do score a date, what should you expect in terms of s-e-x?
I get an enormous volume of contacts but these fifty year olds are like herding cats on caffeine. One second they’re super interested and then a day later it’s “hmmm, well, I’m not sure, yes, no, maybe, catch me if you can”.